Chris Newcomb, M.Div.
"Time, time, time," as the old song goes. It's an enigma. We want more of it if we don't have enough of it. We get mad when there is too much of it. And we get sad when it runs out. One thing for certain in life is that time is of the essence. Or as my graduate school professor put it: we're not getting out of this alive. Act accordingly.
In recovery, time can be a trigger for people. Things can take too long. On the other hand, some things happen too fast (see: new relationships). Patience is a virtue and most newly recovering alcoholics and addicts do not have much of it. They want to be fixed yesterday. They want the future to be here today. Living moment by moment? That's for some patchouli soaked bong warrior hippie person, man! I got things to do, people to see, places to go! Still, the eternal truth applies...time is really another way of saying things I must earn.
When I was 10 years old, I was certain I would be a rock star. I write blogs as part of my living. Not that far removed from rock stardom. Not that close either. Imagine if, at 10 years old, I became a rock star. It would be a case of way too much too soon. I wouldn't be prepared. I'd overdose of money and women. Hopefully I would stay away from substances but that's never easy to do when you're a rock star. Needless to say, there is wisdom in the phrase, "things I must earn".
I must learn the practice of humility. I must learn the practice of discipline. I must learn the art of acceptance. I must learn to live life on life's terms. And the things that I want in life may not come to me on the time table that I prefer. Life has a way of making us wait. Sometimes that is a good thing. Some times it is not.
Are you spending your time wisely? Are you maximizing the time you've been given as a gift? Remember you live every day but you only die once. If you have taken the plunge into sobriety, let me be the first to congratulate you! Now, let me be the first to encourage you to take the time, pardon the pun, to use your time wisely. That is, you probably realize you can not get back the time you wasted on drugs and alcohol. That's ok. No need to beat yourself up. It is what it is. You can make a different choice right now. You only have this moment right now as it yields to the next. How will you use it to make a difference in this life for you and others?
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