Wednesday, March 26, 2014

Forgiveness.





By
Chris Newcomb, M.Div. 

I work for an alcohol and drug detox center.  I meet many different people and wish I could remember all of them in vivid detail.  Unfortunately, my brain fails me!  Still, there are some patients who stick in my brain for different reasons after they leave our facility.  The man I met yesterday was one such case!

John* came to our office to detox off Suboxone.  At 30 years old, he had already been through so many traumatic situations: adultery between his wife and best friend, watching one of his friend's get struck by a car right in front of him, losing another friend in a motorcycle accident and almost coming to blows with his father due to his addiction.  To cope emotionally, he tried Suboxone.  He was hooked immediately for the next 5 years!

As we spoke, he was adamant about not forgiving those who hurt him.  I told him that in order to move on and to stay clean from drugs, this was the best course of action.  What happened next amazed me!  He called his former friend who committed adultery with his ex-wife, forgave him and they are planning to get together next week.  How cool is that?!?

Forgiveness is "the heart of the matter" as Don Henley once sang.  It is important on 3 levels.  First, it clears the heart and mind.  Second, it clears the offending relationship.  Third, it makes way for a possible new beginning in the relationship.  

Recovery requires emotional honesty and vulnerability that is handled in a mature way.  Is there someone you need to forgive?  Remember, forgiving means you set yourself free.  Forgiving doesn't mean it was ok to be hurt rather it means it's not ok for it to continue to hurt you.  Set yourself free.  Choose to forgive right now right where you are.  Forgiveness doesn't require the offending party's willingness to admit wrong.  It is totally our choice.  What choice will you make today?  Freedom is waiting for you!

At The Coleman Institute, we want to help you get clean and stay clean.  If you or someone you love is in need of detox off of alcohol, opiates, benzos, Methadone, or Suboxone, please do not hesitate to call Jennifer Pius or Amy Stewart at 1.877.773.3869 today.  We are here for you!

 

 



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