Monday, January 20, 2014

Feeling Stuck?



By
Chris Newcomb, M.Div. 

Ever felt stuck?  It's no fun.  If you've ever been there, being stuck is a very claustrophobic feeling.  The walls start to close in on you.  Everything starts to feel gray.  The sun loses it's shine.  The clouds gather on the horizon and you feel like another storm is about to pass through.  It's a horrible feeling.  

In many ways, we are all stuck in our lives.  For example, we are stuck with the IRS and if we decided not to obey this 'great financial watchdog' by paying our annual taxes, we'll find our new residence to look very much like the one in the picture above!  Furthermore, we are stuck on Earth.  Sure, we've made it to the moon but we can't live on the moon.  As a matter of fact, a private company has just announced that they will be the first to send a convoy of humans to Mars by the year 2020.  The catch:  it's a one-way trip.  No return flight.  They will die on Mars.  Talk about feeling stuck!

Here's the deal.  If you feel stuck in your life, congratulations, you are alive!  Now, having said that, you still have to deal with either feeling stuck and/or being stuck.  Because feeling stuck can feel so bad, often times, people forget that they have the power of choice.  If you don't like where you are at, exercise your free will and personal power to change the circumstances you don't care for or at least to change the way you perceive/interact with said circumstances.  

The same holds true in addiction.  People freely choose to become addicted although most don't realize that is what they are doing at the time.  Likewise, they have to choose to get out of addiction with the help of others.  Here's where it gets tricky: addiction is a disease that tells you that you have no disease.  That is, people who are addicted live a rather difficult paradox: they are simultaneously powerless to defeat their disease and also required to participate in their own healing.  Talk about feeling stuck!

Reality is not always going to go our way.  We have to be willing to be flexible and accommodate the many twists and turns in the road as well as taking appropriate action to deal with life's circumstances.  In sobriety and recovery, the same principle applies.  Take action!  Action defeats feeling stuck.  Don't ignore the feeling.  It is there to tell you something.  It has a message for you that you have to understand and integrate inside yourself so you can act accordingly.  

For example, if you feel stuck going to a party and you're concerned about your sobriety as well as your friend's opinions of you if you cancel your involvement in said party, choose to 'un-stick' yourself.  Don't go. Take a stand. Assure your friends of your love and respect for them but also assert your need to take care of yourself first.   Do the hard work of protecting your sobriety and not choosing to get stuck.

If you or someone you love needs to be detoxed off of alcohol, opiates, benzos, Methadone, or Suboxone, please do not hesitate to contact Jennifer Pius or Amy Stewart at 1-877-773-3869.  We are here for you. We specialize in helping people get unstuck from addiction!



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