Monday, August 19, 2013

Surrender the Victim Card!

By
Chris Newcomb, M.Div.

Have you ever been a victim of a random act of violence?  Twice I have been a victim of violence towards my car.  Both were hit and runs.  Neither time was I able to catch the perpetrator(s).  I felt totally victimized.  I wondered if I had big words written across my forehead in 18 point font and all caps screaming 'VICTIM' to everyone who passed me by.  Being victimized can make you feel that way, can't it?

Maybe you've been victimized by well-meaning doctors who wanted to help you control your chronic pain but didn't have a clue what they were doing leaving you addicted to pain medication that controls your life.   Perhaps you gave in one too many times to peer pressure and started using recreational drugs.  What started out as fun has now become an albatross round your neck!

Catch my drift?  Most people experience 'victimization' at one point in their lives.  However, there is a big difference between experiencing victimization and becoming a card carrying member of the Victim Card Club!

The best advice I can give you is this: surrender the victim card.  Go ahead and put it on the table.  Tear it up and throw it away.  The Victim Card mentality means that the big bad world is out to get you alone and that you are helpless.  That is not true.  Yes, life is not fair.  Yes, life hurts.  But playing the victim card only makes it worse.  You lose your own self-respect and the respect of others.  You settle for a life of 'could have been' because you resign yourself to being powerless to make changes in your life. 

Ask for help.  Make the call.  Reach out.  You can't do this life on your own.  None of us can.  When the weight is too much to bear, we have to reach out to others to hold us up. 

If you or someone you love is in need of detox from alcohol, opiates, benzos, Methadone, or Suboxone, please do not hesitate to call Jennifer Pius or Amy Stewart at 1-877-773-3869. We're just a phone call away!

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