Thursday, May 9, 2013

How Do I Ask for Help?


By 
Chris Newcomb, M.Div.

Did the title of this blog article grab your attention?  Maybe you found it a bit stupid because the answer seems so obvious.  Perhaps it intrigued you because you wondered if it was a trick question.  

Truthfully, the title is neither.  It is not obvious how to ask for help because so many people fail to do it.  And, I can assure you dear reader, it is not a trick question.  Actually, it is a very important and vital question for everyone but especially for people who struggle with addiction!

If you want to know how to ask for help, the simple answer is: just ask!  The hardest part of that answer is: how?  Why is it hard?  Shame and embarassment are two emotional schoolyard bullies who will do anything to keep you from asking for help.  They shove you up against the wall of self-disdain.  They wrestle you onto the ground of self-loathing.  You kick and scream and bite and even cuss but they don't let go very easily.  

Most of us want to be able to beat things on our own.  This mindset is the primary reason we do not ask for help.  Then, we will be weak.  Then, we will be dependent.  Then, we will be imperfect.  And yes, even then, we will be truthful.  Because the fact of the matter is, every one is weak, dependent and imperfect.  Please realize, of course, that these descriptors do not equal other ones like awful, bad, and unlovable.  Since there are no all-powerful, perfect people, it can't be any other way.  And that is ok...if we ask for help.  

Do you ask for help when you need it?  Do you ask long before it's too late and you're up the proverbial creek without a paddle?  Have you ever felt the relief that comes when you humble yourself to ask someone to help you out?  If you haven't, I urge you to do it.  You'll be glad you did.  

We want you to know that at The Coleman Institute you are our pride and joy.  It is because of you that we exist: to help people get clean and stay clean from drugs and alcohol.  Should you find that you need our services, please do not hesitate to call Jennifer Pius or Amy Stewart at 1-877-77-DETOX (33869). 

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