Chris Newcomb, M.Div.
- You don’t think you are codependent to an addict or alcoholic. Seriously, this is usually a sign that you are. Adjust accordingly!
- You spend the majority of your time worrying about what the addict/alcoholic is doing with their time.
- You have spent, continue to spend, and plan on spending money to either help the addict/alcoholic continue their use or to continue rehab efforts.
- You make excuses for the addict/alcoholic’s behavior by rationalizing, minimizing, and blame-shifting his or her behavior instead of placing the blame where it appropriately deserves to be: at the feet of the addict.
- You believe if you try a little harder you will fix the addict/alcohol and everything will be ok.
- You believe that it is not the addict/alcoholic’s fault that they use alcohol and/or drugs.
The truth is that this article may annoy you because you feel like the author just doesn’t understand how hard it is when you love an addict/alcoholic whether they are a family member, friend, or significant other. This is a common feeling when someone starts talking about codependency. The reality is that it is very difficult to be the sober person in a relationship with an addict/alcoholic. However, there is always another choice to make instead of using drugs and alcohol no matter what the addict says or believes.
At The Coleman Institute, we care for both the addict/alcoholic as well as those who support their return to good health. We are here to help in any way we can. For detox questions , please call Jennifer Pius or Amy Stewart at 1-877-773-3869. If you any questions about aftercare as a support person, you may call Chris Newcomb at 804-353-1230 Ext. 311