Chris Newcomb, M.Div.
One of the hardest things in life is figuring out who we really are and what we are really meant to do. Usually, people struggle the most with these questions during adolescence. Ideally, as we grow older, we should become more clear about our self-identity and our purpose in life. However, many people never experience this growth and get stuck for many different reasons. This is particularly true for those who struggle with substance abuse.
I often tell our addicted clients that the 'party scene' tells you that being sober is 'boring, stupid, and lame'. Oddly enough, people who are sober and don't party often think of the party scene as 'boring, stupid, and lame." Therefore, it is really a matter of opinion as to what is truly boring, stupid, and lame.
Before you jump to conclusions, please understand that I am not judging those who do party or who have partied in the past. The reality is all of us want to be accepted and loved for who we are right where we are and there is nothing wrong with that. However, most of us give into peer pressure at some point because the power of conformity is very strong. Conformity may or may not be a bad thing depending upon your perspective. When it comes to substance abuse, we believe that conformity is deadly.
So, on this Friday, I ask you: Who Are You? Do you know? Do you care? If you don't care, why? Take some time over the weekend to figure out the answers. When you know who you are, you don't care about who they think you should be or what they think you should do. So give yourself permission today to just be. And then, to just be You. And finally, to be you well!
At The Coleman Institute, we specialize in helping people get clean clean and stay clean from alcohol and drugs. If you or someone you love has an addiction, we would love to help you heal. If you are in need of detox from opiates, alcohol, benzos, Methadone, or Suboxone, please do not hesitate to call Jennifer Pius or Amy Stewart at 1-877-77-DETOX (33869)