Chris Newcomb, M.Div.
I was walking to a local restaurant for lunch one day after a long morning in the office. As I was ruminating to myself over the tasks that needed to be accomplished that afternoon, a woman interrupted my musing with a question. "Sir, can you help me? I'm really hungry and have no money to get something to eat, " she said earnestly. Immediately, my 'skeptic flag' flew up and I thought to myself, "Lady, I just want to eat lunch alone and you think I'm going to fall for that load of garbage when all you're going to do is go buy drugs and get high!" I work for an alcohol and drug detox center, nonetheless, so I am a bit tainted in my perspective on this subject unfortunately. Sarah, it turns out, would prove me wrong.
Suddenly the thought occurred to me, "maybe she really is hungry. Let's find out! I'd be happy to buy you a meal at this restaurant I'm going to if you would like, " I offered. She smiled and enthusiastically agreed. Maybe she didn't want drugs and alcohol after all.
Silently, we walked into the restaurant. We stood in line and she placed her order. When the time came, I paid the bill for her. She had a smile on her face. We made some small talk. We walked back outside the restaurant and started to part ways. She told me, "Thank you so much because I was so hungry. God bless you.!" I wished her well and got in my car to leave.
I had an unsettled feeling inside me as I drove back to the office. Why did I question her like that? Why couldn't I just give her money? Why did I not give her the benefit of the doubt?
I didn't have immediate answers to those questions but I did realize that when I thought about her eating that sandwich I smiled. I realized that while I may have done a 'good deed' it wasn't without internal conflict and judgment. Alas, Sara smiled and so did I. That was the highlight of my day. And I tell you this not to brag but to give a loud 'Amen' to the quote at the beginning of this article!
With that said, sobriety can seem like an inconvenient gift. It's not what you ask for. You don't want to open it. You're sure it's going to be another awkward colored sweater from your mother but then you find out it's indescribably awesome. Much like food on an empty stomach. Get sober. It's worth it. It's free. You don't have to pay for it. Give yourself the gift and then pass it on!
At The Coleman Institute, we specialize in helping people get clean clean and stay clean from alcohol and drugs. If you or someone you love has an addiction, we would love to help you heal. If you are in need of detox from opiates, alcohol, benzos, Methadone, or Suboxone, please do not hesitate to call Jennifer Pius or Amy Stewart at 1-877-77-DETOX (33869).