Chris Newcomb, M.Div.
It's all about attitude. At least that's what "they" say whoever "they" are? Are they right? Probably. Do we like to admit it? Usually not. Perhaps a change of mind is in order.
Life is full of challenges. Babies crying. Bosses whining. Coworkers crying. I exaggerate. But you would agree that life can be a struggle, right? Having agreed upon this point, we can now look at how we deal with life as it presents itself to us on a daily basis.
We can't control most of what happens around us but we can control our attitude. It is not always an easy choice but with practice it can become easy. The question is are we willing to do it.
Do you see life as a Rosy Thorn or a Thorny Rose? I once went to an A.A. meeting where a member shared these words: "Life is pain. Once you accept that, everything else is easy." Truer words have not been spoken.
Recovery can be a lot like that. People come into recovery full of pain, angst, hurt, and frustration. If they stick and stay, eventually, they begin to see that they were focusing on the thorns of life and missing the beauty of it's rose!
The fact is life is pain. However, life is also a beautiful rose of exquisite color with soft, fresh petals that light up their surroundings. And yes if we look closely like the photo above, even the beautiful rose has a few thorns. Be careful when grabbing that stem!
Perhaps thorns have a greater purpose in our lives. For the rose, it protects it from being pulled out of the ground or at least it draws blood from the assailant before it leaves the earth. For us, thorns can have several greater purposes.
First, they help us face ourselves. They show us where we need improvement. Second, they challenge us. They make us dig deep and push forward in spite of the pain, the bad feelings, and the doubtful thoughts we experience in light of them. Last, thorns make us stronger. If you've ever grabbed the stem of a rose without looking than you are well aware of the damage the thorns can do to you hands and fingers. What happens after the skin heals? It is tougher. There may even be a scar there to remind you not to repeat past "thorny" behaviors (sorry it was there)!
Today is a brand new day. In your life and your recovery, choose to embrace the thorns of life as they come your way. We all know it's not a matter of 'if' but a matter of 'when'. Embrace the rose...and acknowledge the thorn and the wisdom it may offer you.
At The Coleman Institute, we specialize in helping people get clean clean and stay clean from alcohol and drugs. We enjoy helping addicts and alcoholics let go of the thorns they've been squeezing so they can start healing in sobriety and recovery. If you or someone you love is in need of detox from opiates, alcohol, benzos, Methadone, or Suboxone, please do not hesitant to call Jennifer Pius at 1-877-77-DETOX (33869). Help, hope and healing begin here!