Monday, November 26, 2012

Home: It's Not Where You Think It Is



By 
Chris Newcomb, M.Div. 

H.P.T.M (Happy Post Thanksgiving Monday)!   How are you today?  Feeling stuffed?  Shopped out?  Tired?  You're probably not alone.  Let's do an experiement: go complain to a coworker who is suffering similarly and then come back and read the rest of this blog article.  Ready?  GO!

See, didn't that feel good?  Isn't it great to feel understood?  Doesn't it feel nice to be known just as you are?  Over the weekend, millions of people got together in their homes or the home of someone they love to celebrate the good things and people in their lives.  For many, this was a great experience.  They felt 'at home' and secure.  The time went too fast and they are sad that it is over.  

However, for many, the time couldn't pass fast enough for them.  They were counting down the hours to Monday when life would return to it's 'normal' rhythm.  For many, the holidays can make them feel 'emotionally homeless'.  

Feeling emotionally homeless is an awful experience.  In fact, if you are a person who struggles with substance abuse it can be deadly.  That's right, many addicts and alcoholics suffer from this dreaded feeling during the holiday season.  With all the marketing messages focusing on family and holiday time together, many addicts and alcoholics feel overwhelmed, forgotten, unimportant, lonely, and insecure due to strained familial relationships.  

Fortunately, there is hope for the heart!   I read a quote this weekend that is so powerful.  Perhaps it can help you the next time you feel 'emotionally homeless'.  It says, "Home is not where you live, it is where you are understood." 

It's a very simple idea but it's is very profound.  Home can be anywhere we are accepted and understood just as we are.  For some addicts and alcoholics, inpatient rehab can be the first time that they really feel 'at home' because they are understood for the first time.  Similarly, those new to recovery often feel 'at home' in their counselors office where they can be open and honest about their inner lives. 

Do you have a place you can call home where you are understood?  If it is your biological home, that is great!  Enjoy that gift.  Feel the acceptance that your nuclear home provides you.  If it is not your nuclear home, is there a place you can go to receive that understandingEither way, remember that being understood is the beginning of feeling at home!

At The Coleman Institute, we specialize in helping people get clean clean and stay clean from alcohol and drugs. We try to make every patient feel 'at home' when they come for their detox.  If you or someone you love is in need of detox from opiatesalcohol, benzos, Methadone, or Suboxone, please do not hesitant to call Jennifer Pius at 1-877-77-DETOX (33869).  Help, hope and healing begin here!

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