Wednesday, September 12, 2012

Define Yourself

By 
Chris Newcomb, M.Div.  

Who are you?  It's a good question and a great song by the rock band The Who!  But, I digress.  Perhaps you can put that song on whilst reading this blog for the full effect.  

Now, onto the topic at hand.  How do you define yourself?  Your values?  Your morals?  Your dreams?  Your aspirations?  

It is hard to know who we are on the inside sometimes.  Often times, family and friends, while well meaning, try to tell us who we are supposed to be.  Expectations from society tell us who we should be.  Movies, magazines, and TV shows add to the noisy cacophony of voices vying to make us into their image.

Many people entering sobriety realize how much they were influenced by the drug and alcohol scene.  With distance, they see how much peer pressure influenced their decisions to "just take a little hit" or "have a tall cool one" in order to fit in.  Dissent is never popular particularly in the party scene.  It is blasphemy to say that you don't drink or do drugs and that you are perfectly happy that way.  Try it sometime.  Let me know how that works for you.  

Which brings me back to my original question:  How do you define yourself?  Or do you choose not to define yourself and have someone else define you for you?  Perhaps it's time to make a change.  If you learn how to define yourself, you will probably find way more peace and contentment. 

Now, let me be clear, that doesn't mean that we don't choose an attitude of humility and openness.  We get the final say to embrace or discard whatever potential identities are presented to us.  That is our right and privilege.  However, that doesn't mean that we close ourselves down to possibilities and suggestions because we may miss some very vital information that will be for our benefit.  

Ask yourself these questions as you seek to define yourself by yourself:  Who am I?  Where have I been?  Where am I going?  Who do I want to be?  How near or far away am I from being that person.  What can I change this moment to put me on the path toward fulfilling my goal of defining myself?  If I can't change something, what can I let go of to help me move closer toward fulfilling my goal of defining myself? 

At The Coleman Institute, we specialize in helping people get clean and stay clean from alcohol and drugs.  We help patients get clean so they can begin to define themselves in a different way as sober people and not substance abusers!  If you or someone you love is in need of detox from opiatesalcohol, benzos, Methadone, or Suboxone, please do not hesitant to call Jennifer Pius at 1-877-77-DETOX (33869).  Help, hope and healing begin here!

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