Wednesday, May 18, 2011


Chris Newcomb, M.Div.

I am a child of the 1980’s.  This is great for many reasons one of which includes cheesy 80’s game shows.  Do you remember “Press Your Luck”?  How about “Remote Control”?  $25,000 Pyramid?  The Price is Right, anyone? 
One of my favorite shows was “The Family Feud” with host Richard Dawson.  As you may recall, two families would square off against one another to see who could rack up the most points based on surveys the show conducted about various topics such as “#1 item used in the bathroom?” (Answer:  toilet paper).  Each family had a total of 3 chances per turn to answer correctly.  However, if they got a question wrong, a big huge red X much like the one at the top of this article flashed across the TV screen to indict their failed intellect and lack of point acquisition in the game due to an erroneous answer.  I remember as a kid wincing whenever a contestant got an answer wrong and the big “X” of rejection showed up on the screen.  I almost took it personally as if I got the answer wrong! 
Wrong.  I don’t like the word.  It hurts to have it applied to you.  It can mow down your intellect and slay your self-esteem in one fell swoop!  However, we humans are anything but perfect.  Therefore, we have the ability and the eventuality of being wrong.  Sorry to burst your perfect bubble, pardon the pun!
That’s why the good people of Alcoholics Anonymous provided Step 5 which reads, ““Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs”.  They were up to something good back in the 1930’s.  They understood the course of human nature and our potential for screwing things up.  Furthermore, they had keen insight into the connection between wrong actions and the drive towards addiction.  They are like two peas in a pod.  In order to recover, it is up to the addict/alcoholic to admit and confess their wrongs to someone they trust. 
Personally, I hate admitting I’m wrong.  Ever felt that way?  There’s just something uncomfortable about it.  However, I have found when I am humble and admit I have “shot the proverbial pooch in the hindquarters” it usually ends up ok.  I tend to forget that fact.  How about you?  What’s your experience in admitting you’re wrong?  Are you willing to do it?  Do you run from the responsibility?               
The most important part of this process is honesty.  As the saying goes, “you’re only as sick as your secrets.”  Are you willing to try this type of honesty out?  After all, the most authentic kind of right you can be is when you admit you’re wrong.  And we all know right feels way better than wrong!

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