Thursday, March 18, 2010

Step 3 - “We became willing to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him”

Step 1 is the beginning of the journey to sobriety with the admission of personal powerlessness. This admission paves the way for help from the outside…outside of the addict. In Step 2, the addict embraces the belief that a power greater than himself/herself can restore them to sanity. Finally, we come to Step 3…the ultimate decision. In this step, the addict makes the purposeful decision to turn their will and their life over to their High Power. It is at this point the addict can breathe a sigh of relief knowing that their life is now under the control of Power with more wisdom, insight, and power than they ever had!


If Step 3 sounds so good, why do so many addicts hesitate at this step to move forward? Simply put, Step 3 is not easy to take! In doing so, it is a confession that life under the addicts direction has failed. It is a confession that the addict’s best thinking kept him/her from successfully enjoying the addiction without devastating consequences. In short, Step 3 is an ego deflating step. And that is very good news!


There are several reasons to take Step 3. First, it releases the pressure of trying to make things happen without the power to succeed. Second, it helps the addict become right-sized understanding his/her right place in the world. Last, it is freeing allowing to give up the control they never actually had in the first place!

Through the history of addiction recovery, the stories remain the same. Although the details differ, one truth is a common thread that ties their success together, namely, allowing God to do for them what they could not do for themselves. In taking Step 3, the addict understands the truth of the Big Book when it says, “his defense [against alcohol/drugs] must come from a Higher Power” (p. 43).


Chris Newcoomb - Aftercare Coordinator

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